Thursday, August 5, 2010

"Wedding" Purse

After shipping off my purse to Beading for A Cure, I kicked myself in the rear and started one for me.

This is the dress I'll be wearing to my niece's wedding in August and then another wedding (friend of my husband) in September:

(It's got some shimmer to it, though you can't tell)

And here's the start of my purse to match it.  The velvet isn't really that shiny in person - its a nice rich brown.

I used my favorite "zipper stitch" border, but this time I left some space in between the two rows and added 4 mm bicones in the space.  I really am happy with it.  It feels so good to just 'play' again - not following a pattern and just experimenting.  I'm going to put more leaves and vines along the edge and around the flower too.

If I don't get it finished by my niece's wedding, the next one isn't until September 18, so hopefully I'll get it done by then. 

Ok, so now I'd like your opinion on something.   We received the invitation to the September wedding yesterday and this is how it was addressed on the inside envelope:

My immediate reaction was "How RUDE".  If you don't know my name by now, perhaps you should have asked Pete or at the very least address it as "Mr. and Mrs. Pete Batt."  I sooooo want to write out their gift check as Jason Miller and Wife.  Am I being overly sensitive????  Please be honest - Pete laughed when he saw it.  I guess I just don't see the humor.

10 comments:

Tracey N. said...

Ohhh boyyy! I dont like that either! You have a name and its Lynn, not wife. That one would make me burn a little too. I think you are right, if they know Petes name, they should know yours as well. Typical of a man to laugh at that, but if something came addressed to Lynn and Husband, I bet he wouldnt think it was funny. On a lighter note, the purse is looking gorgeous. I love brown and brown velvet has to be to die for. Cant wait to see it finished! Hugs!

Bellesanbeaus said...

I guess there are a couple schools of thought on this. If the couple didn't know your name they may have been a little embrassed to ask your husband but if that were the case go with mr. and mrs. so-so. It just may be showing our sad state of communicating the written word. At either point I think I would do like you said and put the check as you said!!! lol the purse is stunning already! Just have fun sweetie...we all know your name and we all love you! big hugs beth

Craftymoose Crafts said...

I agree with the previous posters--I (and my husband for that matter) would be really annoyed with that wording. At the very least it should have been Mr. & Mrs.....
I love the dress & I'm sure you will make a statement especially if you finish that fabulous purse!

Lisa Criswell / Indigo's Beads said...

your dress is very pretty. the purse is going to be fabulous! and i too would be offended if we received something "jeff and wife". it would make me feel as an afterthought or something or even as inferior. not good. if it were me i would have done some covert searching among friends and found out the spouse's name, or simply wrote, as other's suggested, mr. and mrs. ...

Robbie said...

First, your dress is beautiful!!! And I love what you're doing with the beaded purse..as to the 'missing' name...I'd assume this was addressed by the 'bride to be' and your hubby is most likely friends to her soon to be..hence, the 'lady' just wrote it as it. Miss Manners would be shocked for sure but I think the generation today aren't aware of manners (or of Miss Manners either!). I make sure I put her first name (& his) on the card/check/gift just to show what is proper..but then again, she probably won't notice!

Whimsical Creations said...

The dress & purse are beautiful!!

I would have been upset, too. That is just rude.

Plays with Needles said...

Well...

Human beings are going to disappoint us our entire life. Just expect it. And though you can't control how someone addressed your invitation, you can control how you respond. I would laugh it off...

And wear that dazzling dress and that amazing beaded bag...there won't be a person there that doesn't know your name by the end of the night!

And I am taking this post as a personal note to myself today to try hard to remember the names of those new people I meet. xoxo Jim's wife/Jack's mom/Joe's daughter

Carol said...

Hi Lynn
Of course the purse is gorgeous and will go beautifully with the dress.

Its a sad state this generation has evolved to. Kids (I'm 58) don't know proper ettiguete. I'll go a step further, they don't care to. People of their generation would see nothing wrong in addressing an invitation in this manner.

I have received many invitations addressed to Terry and I that have included a note inside to please tell Laurie that she is invited too. Even when she didn't live here. I guess they thought that was alright, either to save postage or not bothering to find out what her address was.

I always try to maintain my own values and practices, even when others have disappointed.

Shrug it off and have a good time.

PS. I have heard several in the younger generation use the non word "conversate" when discussing the fact that they were "conversing" with someone. A disc jockey for the current hit station admitted he uses it, knows its not a word and doesn't care. Someday it will be added to the dictionary anyway. THAT is the attitude of today's generation.

Lindsay said...

As a younger reader of your blog, a member of the heathen generation, if you will (isn't that really what every older generation says about the younger generation? I'm sure I'll say it someday)- and as a young lady who just sent out many thank-you cards after a lovely wedding... I have to respectfully disagree with Carol! Although, to be fair, I agree that it was rude. I just think that today's correspondence is almost entirely limited to texting and email and blog comments! I haven't received a written letter (barring birthday cards from family and the occasional invite) since I was away at summer camp. I'm not saying that it's a good thing that young people are less aware of how to properly address letters, I'm only saying that it just isn't as necessary a thing to learn anymore. So yes, she should absolutely have known your name (or come on! written Mr. and Mrs...) but no, it does not mean that this entire generation is somehow any more of a disappointment than baby boomers were to their parents (and so on and so on, for every generation ever).

I really don't mean to rant, I just think that these kinds of generalizations are silly! And I am not the exception to any rule, by far; there are many, many other well-spoken and well-mannered young people around, I pinky-promise. So please, all, don't be so hasty to judge! It only ends up sounding grumpy!

Marty S said...

I had to chuckle. Last weekend we attended my husband's family reunion. We were given blank nametags when we walked in. I wrote "Marty, wife of (husband's name)" on mine. I wish everyone there had done that.

And then there was the time about 20 years ago when I was running to make a connection in the Minneapolis airport. I ran in to some officials from our local school district. The Assistant Superintendent introduced me to the Business Manager as (name of daughter's) mother.

And what is the zipper stitch? It's a great edging, but I couldn't figure out how you stitched it.

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