tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2423380881655409506.post6738137476546979047..comments2023-10-08T10:20:43.804-04:00Comments on Beading Heart Art: Debbie Downer Comes to TownLynnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15451877202324054088noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2423380881655409506.post-91271108351063894252011-05-01T16:21:26.353-04:002011-05-01T16:21:26.353-04:00Hugs sweetie! I have been wondering how you and y...Hugs sweetie! I have been wondering how you and your family have been. Sorry you are still going through this still.Melanie @ Whimsical Creationshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00109731889293246835noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2423380881655409506.post-32602129111078556652011-03-26T17:06:26.184-04:002011-03-26T17:06:26.184-04:00Oh I do hope things get better for you and your da...Oh I do hope things get better for you and your daughter. My daughters were bullied as well. Had to move them to another school and pay tuition, on a positive note, in the new school they became very popular! Stay strong and don't let negative people suck your energy from you. The way you handle this will be a huge lesson to your daughter. Wishing the best for all. hugs ~ mary helenmary helenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00308752182975264074noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2423380881655409506.post-40629856240803667762011-03-25T11:40:47.624-04:002011-03-25T11:40:47.624-04:00Lynn, You have my sympathies. Bullying is absolute...Lynn, You have my sympathies. Bullying is absolutely criminal. I was bullied in 4th grade BY MY TEACHER. I came home crying one day and told my mother what had happened. She wrote a letter to the teacher and the next day the teacher read it aloud to the whole class. I never told my mother what was happening after that. <br />My son was bullied in the 6th grade. My "fix" for it was to hire an 8th grader to be his "bodyguard". This kid befriended him and walked with him in the halls, introduced him to his 8th grade friends, and let the bully know that there would be social consequences if it kept up. <br />It worked. <br />I feel for you and I understand your anger towards your brother in law, but please don't let this destroy your marraige. Your husband is being torn between a brother he loves and his wife and daughter who he loves. We love our family no matter what horrible things they do or say. You do not need to associate with these people who prefer to be blind to their hoodlum daughter, but please let your husband love his brother. ALL love should be unconditional. <br />How is your daughter doing now? Has this dilemma cleared up? Have you considered counselling for your daughter and yourself? It may help to heal the hurt.<br />My love and sympathies to you.<br />CenyaEmerald Windowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00728298203537429758noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2423380881655409506.post-70516687640506964162011-03-24T21:13:44.277-04:002011-03-24T21:13:44.277-04:00None of us can walk in your shoes. I do agree tha...None of us can walk in your shoes. I do agree that you can't let 'family' destroy your 'family'. I'm sure your husband is torn as well. It's hard putting everyone in this terrible spot..and hard to believe that teenagers can put adults in this abyss! Try to stay strong for your daughter, your husband and yourself.Robbiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13506964994589004458noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2423380881655409506.post-25717171614861397822011-03-24T17:38:38.660-04:002011-03-24T17:38:38.660-04:00Oh Lynn! My heart is breaking for you and Hannah. ...Oh Lynn! My heart is breaking for you and Hannah. I cannot believe what you both have been through this past year, or longer. I cant believe "Family" would or could stoop this low against their own. V needs to be held accountable by her parents. I myself wouldnt want to believe one of my children could be capable of an act of violence such as this, but if someone told me they had proof, I would have to face my fears and see it for myself. I completely understand the position you are in with your hatred of Petes brother and his wife (not to mention the daughter) I would feel the same myself. I can also a bit understand your husband being torn between the situation and his brother. I can see where you would feel complete betrayal by his actions of nonchalance. Sounds like he wants to just pretend it never happened. That isnt going to help anything either. I have no advice for you. I am sure you have talked and talked until you are blue in the face and he just doesnt get it. I am so sorry! I think you as just as traumatized as Hannah. Hugs being sent your way. I wish I could fix things for you.Tracey Leederhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06618831763441517939noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2423380881655409506.post-49237924592596009272011-03-24T15:48:15.673-04:002011-03-24T15:48:15.673-04:00It is hard being the object of a bully. I had to ...It is hard being the object of a bully. I had to deal with this issue back when I was 13 & we moved from LA to a small hick town in southern Ohio. Those boys & girls made my life miserable for all those years until I finally got to run away from it all when I went to college. I hate that town because of all that. My Dad tried to get some of the bullying to stop when I was in high school, but it didn't help. Instead for those long 5 years, I became an island. Only when I left did the real me come out. I forgot most of the cruelty those people did to me but I have never forgiven them. Probably why I don't ever tell people my family is from that town. I rarely go down there to visit my other family, because the rage hits me again. I'm sorry about this being in your family. I guess I do understand the hurt & feelings you have as there are so many rifts in my family because of things similar. Some people hide & think if you don't talk about it, it will go away. Maybe that is what you husband is doing. I know my family seems to do this, me included, but it is never right & it does hurt. But sometimes it is more painful to confront. I guess I'm just an island about so many things. Private me if you want to talk more. I'm a pretty good shoulder<br /><br />dotflyingbeaderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14552477017906406473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2423380881655409506.post-78215630282906364402011-03-24T15:43:03.723-04:002011-03-24T15:43:03.723-04:00I am speechless. No words are coming. I am here th...I am speechless. No words are coming. I am here though. Listening in the abyss.Roberta Warshawhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09869094383053871169noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2423380881655409506.post-79908507925037188542011-03-24T14:50:13.533-04:002011-03-24T14:50:13.533-04:00My heart bleeds for you! I hear and feel your pai...My heart bleeds for you! I hear and feel your pain. You are absolutely correct in believing your child comes first and foremost. Please don't despair. I'm not sure what my advice would be to you because a marriage is involved but your daughter needs as many people on her side as she can get. Is it an option to move your daughter from that school?<br />AnalisaBlissful Banter of a Creative Crafterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13426153053384786980noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2423380881655409506.post-37463320234345635712011-03-24T12:41:13.138-04:002011-03-24T12:41:13.138-04:00O Lynn, you are in a bad place for sure. Between ...O Lynn, you are in a bad place for sure. Between the rock and hard place.<br /><br />We have a similar situation. Corey's cousin stole his phone. Making a very short story, we have it back and the cousins are at odds. Way more to tell, but heck this is YOUR blog.<br /><br />I certainly understand your feelings. I have lived with inlaws for about 40 years now that I have had some of these same feelings about from time to time.<br /><br />My advice to you, which has worked for me, is not to come between a man and his family, anymore than I would accept him coming between me and mine. Terry sees his family when he wants to and I rarely go along and it works ok. <br /><br />Your marriage or misery..unfortunately you must choose.<br /><br />Don't take this comment as my opposition to your stand on the matter. You should do what is right for you. This just sounds like a battle you aren't going to win.Carol- Beads and Birdshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11062821517519300477noreply@blogger.com